Helping Your Grief be less overwhelming.

Your grief is a natural process that you experience after a significant loss.  Your loss maybe of someone or something close to you.  It can be a normal for us to experience grief after losing a pet or a job as much as it is for losing a close friend, relative or partner.  Grief will affect us all in different ways and sometimes it may be advantageous for us to seek some sort of support to help us through this period.

The support available during your grieving process can take place in a number of forms so that you can find something that suits you.  The process can help make your grief less overwhelming so that you are more able to cope with the inevitable changes in your life at this time and also more able to cope with the running of your day to day life during this transitional period.

Brian Tregunna is a Life Coach at Inspiring Health

It will often take time to rationalise negative emotions and come to terms with what has happened.  For instance, if you split up with someone you’ve been in a relationship with for some time or experience the death of a loved one, then it’s natural to grieve. The five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance are all part of the process.  It’s a natural reaction and one that people should expect.  However, whilst every loss is different and every response is specific to that individual person, if the grieving goes on for too long then it can be damaging.  You need to move yourself to a state of mind that is sometimes known as being ‘at Cause’ and you may need help from a trained coach to help you get there.  The time and effort getting to ‘at Cause’ will, however, be well worthwhile as that you be where you find the solutions to move forward with your life.  It doesn’t mean you delete the past or delete the memory but what it does mean is that you are accepting of what has happened and are expecting to feel different about it in the future”. 

Jan explains how Reflexology may help you through this period.
Grief and loss, in any form, can block your energy flow and upset the delicate balance of our physical, emotional and spiritual being. When we are unbalanced it can end up presenting as depression, anxiety, and feelings of being overwhelmed and hopelessness as well as physical symptoms. Reflexology will aid in releasing and rebalancing this energy.

Reflexologists treat all clients as an individual (holistically) and know that grief is a personal process and there is no right or wrong way to grieve. With this in mind, not all clients will react to the treatment in the same way or come for the same reasons.

You will be provided with the space and care you need at this time, allowing time for the release of emotions and assisting in the grieving process. The treatment will be comforting and nurturing and will allow your natural balance to restore in your own time.

Words from a client

“I have always felt at ease and in safe, caring hands. This was particularly important for me as my husband had died just weeks before my first session with Jan and I was very vulnerable on many fronts. She allowed and helped me to express my feelings and week by week I found myself getting stronger and better able to understand what I was going through.
It has always been a joy to attend the sessions , where Jan has also shared her experiences and interests with me. Helping me all the time.
As regards the treatments my feet have always been sore when first treated but when I leave they are relaxed and much more flexible. I feel more relaxed.
Thank you for all you have done for me”

Jill explains how grief, sadness and sorrow can affect our physical wellbeing.

“Chinese medicine, acupuncture and herbal medicine hold that there are five main systems in a person that are connected and affect one another. Each system is called by an organ name and has many associations.  Grief, sadness and sorrow are associated with the Lung system. The complimentary organs are the large intestine, the skin and nose. The natural element is metal, the colour is white, the sound is weeping and the season is autumn. It disperses energy downward and inward in the body. 

Emotions affect the function of the whole organ system.  So if one is experiencing strong or persistent grief, sadness and sorrow the lung function will be compromised. One may develop a cough, allergies, asthma, or lung disease. Constipation, diarrhoea, or other large intestine issues may crop up. Skin conditions like eczema, psoriasis or other forms of dermatitis may develop. Because each system is connected, disfunction in one can can lead to disfunction in the others. The Lung system is closely related to the Liver system in the body. A compromised liver system may produce headaches, migraines, or menstrual problems, for example. 

Chinese medicine helps to regulate the organ function which helps to process the emotion or vice versa. It helps to shift the emotions so they don’t get stuck and get in the way of smooth functioning organs. The two areas (emotions and physicality) are entwined- help one and the other is helped too. 

I’ve given examples of how far reaching the experience of strong emotions can be.  If you feel like the loss you experienced got lodged in your mind and body, acupuncture treatments and Chinese herbal medicine offer relief. They help to release the emotions, bolster the function of your systems and rebalance your mind and body”.

Support to help you through these times

At Inspiring Health we offer a number of different therapies and support systems to help you through difficult and challenging times.  Please click through to find out more about the therapies we offer and our team of professional therapists.

If you would like to find out more about any of our therapies and treatments please book a 20 minute free discussion to find out more.